A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17
Few relationships are reliable and treasured like the one described by King Solomon. Authentic friends who are like family grow fewer as time passes. In contrast, those who either only want you around for a purpose, like a teammate, or a season of life, or just to personify the saying, “misery loves company,” unfortunately grow in number. My father and I wrote about these relationships in The Power of Agreement.
Another saying is that life can make you bitter or better. Life, especially over the last two years, has been used by God to make me a more loving Pastor and a more loyal friend. Friends who show up and who’ve stuck by me in love are appreciated as gifts on this birthday blog.
Many could read their names in this post of appreciation and gratitude. But Mitch Hickman, this post is dedicated to you, brother and a friend!
10 Reason’s why I call Mitch Hickman a brother and friend.
He has his priorities straights (Faith, Family, Football)
He is the kind of friend who, when everyone runs away from you, he runs towards you! We may go years without talking, but he is there at just the right time. His friendship with my brother Dickie, who fights the battle over health issues, is beyond words. Despite the many years, Mitch has never left his side. Mitch is not just a friend of convenience!
He shows up. Doesn’t need an invitation; he expects no red carpet; and isn’t available only if personally invited. When Mitch’s friends need him, regardless of the span of time or how he finds out, he shows up. He is there! He’s there for his family, friends, and those in need. He’s been there for me!
Mitch is authentic, even brutally honest. For years, I’ve invited Mitch to come hear me preach on a Sunday, not just for funerals of our childhood friends. His response is simple and profound… “Do you come watch me work my job?! Then I’m not coming to watch you do yours.” Some might take offense to that. I know my Christian brother to be #Real in avoiding religion and only wanting Bonafide relationships. I’m honored you watch and participate in service online!
He loves his parents and entire family and honors them. Every single time there’s a need, Mitch is there. I remember when his precious sister Marissa passed away. It was a hard time. Still, Mitch kept her legacy going. He does to this day.
Mitch respects my calling as a Pastor. He’s proud of me but is no friend with empty, flattering words.. He always tells me the truth and speaks the truth to me in love. The Bible teaches that a true friend tells you the truth. He wants my best and proves it.
Mitch serves others...always. When my friend, Daniel Thurman passed away, Mitch took on the task of unloading his trucks full of tools. Daniel had a successful heating and air business. I pulled up at the family house, and Mitch was sweating and working his tail off unloading this tools. I offered to lend a hand in the back-breaking labor. Mitch’s response was again simple, and maybe a little salty. He said, “You go into that house and do what you do, and I’m going to stay out here and do what I can do.” I shut my mouth and went in and loved the family and planned the funeral.
Mitch isn’t jealous or envious. Mitch has never cared that I had other friends, circles, or people in my life. He is not that kind of best friend. He wants what is best for all the people he loves without demanding control or his terms.
Mitch held my first born son the night he was born. He models being a great Dad and putting his family first. Mitch was one of the few who didn’t stop being my friend after I became a Dad at 19.
He loves me despite my faults. Mitch shows he’s proud of me. He’s proven he’ll defend me. Mitch is most like Jesus when he gives me grace and been forgiving of my failures.
24 years ago, Mitch, you drove all night so we could watch my Florida State Seminoles get beat by arguably the greatest college football team of all time, the 2001 Hurricanes.
24 years later, here we are again. But this time, my three boys and your grown son are part of the treasure of authentic friendship.
Thank you for being a friend at all times and my brother!
